The initial title of this post was How not to come off looking like a hater but on second thought I concluded that if you come off looking like a hater, then you are definitely one. People don't just mistake a person for what such a person doesn't look or act like.
There are people who are complete "haters" but don't even know what they do is hating. What this means is that you can be well balanced in the hate zone without even knowing you are a hater. The reason this is bad is because haters are "bad belle" people and you don't want to be tagged as one. It's not a nice title to have attached to anyone.
The following are some of the ways to detect you are gradually becoming a hater for real.
If you don't feel the need to congratulate a person when there is an obvious reason to, check yourself. You may be crossing over the line to the other side already. If you are happy about a particular thing that has happened to a friend, neighbor, colleague, sibling, and so on, the most natural way to show it would at least be to congratulate them, right? If you don't, then maybe you are not happy for them?
If you never give compliments, tell me why you won't be mistaken for a full blown hater. Maybe the reason you would rather chew your tongue than give an appropriate compliment is because there is something in you that would rather just hate. (Lol) Compliment that beautiful attire, gadget, the lovely voice, e.t.c. Tell him the hair cut is nice before you are seen sporting thesame hairstyle the next week.
The third way to detect you are gradually becoming a hater is if you find yourself always disputing the obvious. Take for example, everybody knows Bovi is funny but then you say all his jokes are dry. (Laughs) Why do I sense hate? You know you are gradually becoming a hater when you argue that someone intelligent is not, or when you call someone who is pretty ugly and the list just goes on. If it's true then just admit it. There is no use fighting facts just to make yourself feel better. Only haters do that.
You are very speedily becoming a hater if you enjoy bad mouthing a particular person. If your major subconscious aim when a person's name is mentioned is to speak negative of such person, then there is a "spirit" of hating lurking somewhere within. Rebuke it.
If you never have any positive or helpful comments to offer when a person confides in you on any issue, you are most definitely hating, no doubts. If you jeer or ridicule a person with the things they have confided in you about, it's hating. If you see the problems but never see the solutions, you are acting like a hater already.
You are gradually becoming a hater when your major self imposed duty is to look out for flaws in people to show that they are not as "perfect" as they seem. Lol... This has "bad belle" written all over it, doesn't it? So, we all know there is no perfect person. We also know just because a person seems to have everything going so well doesn't mean they are perfect. But you don't have to appointment yourself the FLAW DETECTOR. Try channeling that energy into something more positive instead.
Lastly, you will know you are gradually becoming a hater when you make someone your competition. When you never want such a person to do better than you have done and if they happen to achieve more than you have, you feel bad about it. Life is not and will never be a competition. Learn to appriciate your efforts as well as those of others.
All of these ways could individually or collectively hint at whether or not you are gradually becoming a hater. If you are guilty of atleast one of these dark traits, learning to have a better self esteem can help you avoid becoming a mean person full time. .
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There are people who are complete "haters" but don't even know what they do is hating. What this means is that you can be well balanced in the hate zone without even knowing you are a hater. The reason this is bad is because haters are "bad belle" people and you don't want to be tagged as one. It's not a nice title to have attached to anyone.
The following are some of the ways to detect you are gradually becoming a hater for real.
If you don't feel the need to congratulate a person when there is an obvious reason to, check yourself. You may be crossing over the line to the other side already. If you are happy about a particular thing that has happened to a friend, neighbor, colleague, sibling, and so on, the most natural way to show it would at least be to congratulate them, right? If you don't, then maybe you are not happy for them?
If you never give compliments, tell me why you won't be mistaken for a full blown hater. Maybe the reason you would rather chew your tongue than give an appropriate compliment is because there is something in you that would rather just hate. (Lol) Compliment that beautiful attire, gadget, the lovely voice, e.t.c. Tell him the hair cut is nice before you are seen sporting thesame hairstyle the next week.
The third way to detect you are gradually becoming a hater is if you find yourself always disputing the obvious. Take for example, everybody knows Bovi is funny but then you say all his jokes are dry. (Laughs) Why do I sense hate? You know you are gradually becoming a hater when you argue that someone intelligent is not, or when you call someone who is pretty ugly and the list just goes on. If it's true then just admit it. There is no use fighting facts just to make yourself feel better. Only haters do that.
You are very speedily becoming a hater if you enjoy bad mouthing a particular person. If your major subconscious aim when a person's name is mentioned is to speak negative of such person, then there is a "spirit" of hating lurking somewhere within. Rebuke it.
If you never have any positive or helpful comments to offer when a person confides in you on any issue, you are most definitely hating, no doubts. If you jeer or ridicule a person with the things they have confided in you about, it's hating. If you see the problems but never see the solutions, you are acting like a hater already.
You are gradually becoming a hater when your major self imposed duty is to look out for flaws in people to show that they are not as "perfect" as they seem. Lol... This has "bad belle" written all over it, doesn't it? So, we all know there is no perfect person. We also know just because a person seems to have everything going so well doesn't mean they are perfect. But you don't have to appointment yourself the FLAW DETECTOR. Try channeling that energy into something more positive instead.
Lastly, you will know you are gradually becoming a hater when you make someone your competition. When you never want such a person to do better than you have done and if they happen to achieve more than you have, you feel bad about it. Life is not and will never be a competition. Learn to appriciate your efforts as well as those of others.
All of these ways could individually or collectively hint at whether or not you are gradually becoming a hater. If you are guilty of atleast one of these dark traits, learning to have a better self esteem can help you avoid becoming a mean person full time. .
Remember to subscribe to the blog and also drop your comments and contributions.
Thank you.
