Fitting in or standing out?

One of the major problems society face today is the problem of too many people trying to "fit in". Have you ever paused to wonder who sets the standard that we all ought to conform with? Or better still, is there even a universal standard anywhere?

Every day I see people who no longer remember who they are. People who so desperately want to fit into a particular stereotype that they have edited their real selves completely out. People who are difficult to identify because when you look in the crowd, there is nothing to tell them apart from the rest of the crowd. Same old, same old, and yet we claim to be sui generis. We all claim to be unique but still feel ashamed of our unique attributes/features because it's not the  trendy thing by heaven-knows-whose-standard. 

The good thing about not struggling to fit in that people seem to not realize is that it makes you be at peace with yourself. You are not competing with anyone so there is no pressure on you to do things in a particular way. You set your standards according to your ability and just pull it off regardless. In my opinion, nothing beats the satisfaction you get from just being yourself.

Something else that not struggling to fit-in does is make you stand out. Why struggle to fit in when you can just be you, stand out and be the standard for a change? The truth is most people are tired of doing things in a particular way but they somehow lack the courage to put an end to unhealthy stereotypes and start on a course in the right direction. They are probably thinking, "what if THEY talk?", "What if they think...? "," What if they don't understand?".
But let those who would talk, talk. Let those who would think whatever, think and let those who would not understand not understand. Life's worth more than what a few people think about the right decisions you make.

Those who get lost in the crowd never really matter. Only those who stand out are celebrated.

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Why give sexual organs euphemistic names?

So i stumbled upon this post by a friend on Facebook and I thought it wise to share. Tell us what you think about it by leaving your thoughts on the comment box below.

By Oghenero UniqueRuth Edemo

Please i like to know something... Why do we
give our sexual organs euphemistic names when
in 'pious' company? Why do we feel that avoiding
calling our sexual organs their names is a mark
of 'modesty'?
A euphemism is a pleasant word
given to an unpleasant thing. Seriously what is
unpleasant, crude or vulgar about something God
himself created?
I have observed that some parents when
teaching their toddlers names of part of their
bodies, teach them to call their penis or vagina
names like 'peepee' ,'thing' , etc. Some persons
avoid even referring to their breasts, vagina,
penis, etc, and instead use 'body'.

Its a very unhealthy thing as these kids are being
raised to think there is something evil, dirty or
unclean about these parts. That is why we have
alot of ignorant, hypocritical adults especially in
these very religious part of the world. The irony
of it all is that their acting as if their sexual
organs are 'unmentionables' doesn't stop them
from being promiscuous..
Yes, the same people who would raise their
eyebrows in 'righteous irritation' if someone
called his or her sexual organs what they are,
actually have veeeery active sexual lives. And
there are alot of people who though are sexually
active, know very little about their penis or
vagina, or for females, don't even know how to
count their menstrual cycle, NOTHING.
It's sad.

Some kids have hidden the fact thAt an older
relative was touching their sexual organs from
their parents 'cos they have observed that their
parents see such talk about the sexual organs as
'forbidden'.
Please dear new parents and would-be parents,
ignorance is NOT bliss. Teach your kids to call
their penis or vagina what they are, as soon as
they can talk. Don't tell them to call their penis
or vagina 'peepee' since obviously you won't ask
them to call their eyes 'holes' or 'windows'. If
somehow you have imbibed thw idea that the
penis or vagina is an 'unmentionable', cleanse
yourself from that idea ,'cos you can't give what
you don't have. Teach them to see their sexual
organs like other parts of their bodies. Teach
them that their sexual organs are God's handwork
as much as other parts of their bodies. Teach
them good sex education. Read good books
about the human body to educate yourself, and
then your kids. Ignorance will only lead to more
disaster. Know that you will give an account to
God for those kids.
To the general public, its an insult to your Maker
to treat what he has created as unclean or
crude. God doesn't create unclean or bad things.
# learn

Anti-corruption crudade in Nigeria :Is it what the country actually needs right now?

By Eyankware  Oghenegare

On May 29th
2015, there was excitement in the air all over
Nigeria that People’s Democratic Party (PDP)
has finally left power. “Change has come” was
on the lips of the populace amidst high hopes
that there was finally going to be food on the
table of the poor; those that finally get their
own share of the national cake during PDP’s
sixteen (16) years rule in the country. It is now
eight (8) months ago and it seems like the
hopeful masses have been deceived. On the
front pages of the national dailies and headline
news of the television stations, all we see is
“Anti-Corruption War against ….” It is becoming
worrisome how the government has lost focus so
soon forgetting that Nigeria needs economic
liberation, development of the local
manufacturing industry, building of indigenous
technology, exploration of its numerous mineral
resources amidst others.

Fighting corruption
some will say will put Nigeria on her path to
greatness, no doubt about that; but let us ask
ourselves, what did  the teeming population vote for?
What was the expectation of the unemployed
graduate who voted for All Progressive Congress
(APC)? What were the hopes of the aged in the
village who cast their votes for President
Buhari? How about the sick in the hospital that
came out en masse to vote for change?

The
writer wants to believe that none of them wanted
a government that would focus all of it's attention
on anti-corruption crusades without making
creative and deliberate efforts to develop
the economy.

Under the last administration,
Nigeria's Gross Domestic Product (GDP) made an
all-time high of $568billion sending a signal to
the world that Nigeria is a place where foreign
investors can come can invest their monies with
a ready market to buy their products but now, it
is like the story is a totally different one. Foreign
investors are pulling out of the economy, value
of the Naira is dropping, foreign exchange
earnings are on the decline with a host of other
economic problems; and all the government talks
about is fighting corruption? The writer has been
forced to ask “what plan does the government
have for the recovered funds?” This question is
paramount because under the past
administration of General Abdusalam Abubakar
and President Olusegun Obasanjo some of the
funds General Sani Abacha looted away were
recovered but their usage did not have any
significant improvements on the economy. It
must not be forgotten that it is the same set of
politicians that managed the recovered funds
under those previous

 administrations that are still
in power today.

As a young gas engineer, I have
been observant of the price of crude oil in the
international market for the past year which is
the main source of the country’s foreign
exchange earnings. It has obviously been on a
decline falling to all-time low of $26 per barrel in
January, 2016. But unfortunately, the anti-
corruption government has been blinded to this
and its implications on the Nigerian economy.
Instead of focusing on diversifying the economy
aggressively, focus is being laid on chasing
corrupt ex-public officers of the opposition party
up and down while disregarding the rule of law in
carrying out its campaign. Is the anti-corruption
fight going to generate employment of the
teeming unemployed population? Is it going to
add more megawatts of electricity to the
national grid? Is it going to improve the
healthcare system in the rural villages? Is it
going to put food on the table of the average
Nigerian? The writer stands corrected but he
believes it would not. What the average Nigerian
wants to see is industries been built, electricity
situation of the country improving, certificates
finding their owners worthy employment
opportunities, an efficient housing system, world-
class education standard, access to portable
water in the rural communities, Nigerians being
proud of the fact that they are Nigerians amidst
others. Unfortunately, the writer does not see
this happening in a country where the
government is all focused on fighting corruption
without effective economic plans and policies to
grow the economy. It is rather disheartening that
most Nigerians are now realizing that the
change they vote for is not what they are
getting. Without euphemizing it, the writer must
say that we have all been fooled. Let’s appeal to
one another’s conscience and evaluate what the
present administration has done so far and we
will all realize that an all anti-corruption
government is not what Nigeria needs right now.
But again, the writer will let Nigerians decide for
themselves what they really want…

Keeping the goals and resolutions

Hello distinguished readers of Talkasphere, it's  nice having you here again in 2016. Welcome on board the 2016 flight. 

The year is still quite early and in the spirit of the season, a lot of people are still enthusiastic about their new year resolutions but will this be the case in a couple of months? 

I am sure that in time past, a lot of us may have started past years with so much positive energy ready to take on the world but watched our enthusiasm wither at some point. Ever wondered why? 

The reoccurring question is, why do people begin the year  with such overwhelming eagerness and lose the positive energy half way into the year? 

Let's talk about the goals we set. 

How about setting realistic goals for a start? 

The reason most people get stuck and then discouraged is because they set outrageous goals for the year. Someone  may want to call it faith but even the Bible says wisdom is profitable to direct. For example, your 2016 goal cannot be to buy yourself a mansion somewhere in Lekki when you have made zero plans on getting a source of income. Big dreams, small plans leads to a big break down. Take one steady step at a time. It will eventually get you where you are headed. 

Point is, your goals and resolutions must meet with equal work. Try discipline, determination and hard-work in relation to those goals and resolutions and see how far it takes you. 

Even the word "Impossible" says "I'm possible". Impossible is a lazy man's anthem. 

Set your goals and go for them. 

Keep the fire burning.