It's a damp Thursday afternoon and I'm somewhere in Delta State snuggling under my cover cloth. I'm grateful to God for this beautiful day.
So, I'm struck once again by how much we ladies like to sit down and brag just about anything we have. The most annoying of all is what i want to talk about.
So far, i think there are only a handful of things i find more annoying than a group of "friends" whose conversations only begins with and revolves around phrases like, "My boyfriend...", "There's this guy that's asking me out... ", "He gave me money to buy this...". Yes, these group of girls. They more often than not are so painful on the ears it literally hurts to listen to them. Having spent a great deal of time in the midst of different girls from different backgrounds overtime , i can say this is a quite common conversation trend amongst us ladies but damn, i can never get used to it.
SO, i know of these group of "friends" who would only talk about their boyfriends and what he's got them and who is asking them out and what their latest belongings are and how their boyfriend or some other random guy has promised to get them this or that and all that junk. Seriously, is there nothing more this "friendship" is about? Next thing i know, they are having a big quarrel because one has been sneaking behind another's back to go on secret dates with her boyfriend and has been demanding money from the friends' boyfriend. When i heared about it i was like, "Ehen, I'm even shocked it took her this long to start doing stuffs with the guy behind the friend's back." When all your conversions are about "My boyfriend this, my boyfriend that" Why will she not attempt to snatch him? So, since you are dating a guy who would trek to hell and back just to give you whatever expensive thing you want and hers cannot afford to buy her expensive things you want her to go and die? No, she will not kill herself. She will snatch him from you and you will cry a river.
Who even told you the friends you are yapping on and on to about your man care to know about your latest man update? There are two kinds of girls who will join you in this kind of senseless conversation. The first is the one who wants to know if you are better than her. She's the one who will tell you about her own MEN when you tell her about yours. She turns it into a silent competition. When you say, "The man did this..." she says, "Mine did something similar. " The one who says" I used to have this bag he bought you but i gave it out." She is not your friend. She's like a spy. Coming to know what latest you have and you never disappointment her. You most likely bitch about each other behind each other's back.
The second one is the one who listens dreamy eyed. She says things like, "You are so lucky, It's so fine, una when get una own good o." She is the one who would do alot of stupid things to "upgrade" so she can "feel among". She bitches more about you behind your back and she will eventually make a move on the man or even do something worse.
What this means at the end is that you have to start lying to each other at some point and most importantly what it means is you are neither a friend nor do you have any friends because what you call friendship actually sucks. Why? Because that isn't even worth calling a friendship in the first place. What sort of person talks about boyfriends all day long? What sort of friends have no conversation when there are no men to talk about?
This is not me telling you not to talk to your friends about the things going on in your life but you just have to tune it down a bit. The truth is nobody really cares to know about what you have if they don't have it or have something better. If it must be about a man, keep it to yourself for two reasons. One, nobody cares to know and two, it doesn't even make any sense.
So, I'm struck once again by how much we ladies like to sit down and brag just about anything we have. The most annoying of all is what i want to talk about.
So far, i think there are only a handful of things i find more annoying than a group of "friends" whose conversations only begins with and revolves around phrases like, "My boyfriend...", "There's this guy that's asking me out... ", "He gave me money to buy this...". Yes, these group of girls. They more often than not are so painful on the ears it literally hurts to listen to them. Having spent a great deal of time in the midst of different girls from different backgrounds overtime , i can say this is a quite common conversation trend amongst us ladies but damn, i can never get used to it.
SO, i know of these group of "friends" who would only talk about their boyfriends and what he's got them and who is asking them out and what their latest belongings are and how their boyfriend or some other random guy has promised to get them this or that and all that junk. Seriously, is there nothing more this "friendship" is about? Next thing i know, they are having a big quarrel because one has been sneaking behind another's back to go on secret dates with her boyfriend and has been demanding money from the friends' boyfriend. When i heared about it i was like, "Ehen, I'm even shocked it took her this long to start doing stuffs with the guy behind the friend's back." When all your conversions are about "My boyfriend this, my boyfriend that" Why will she not attempt to snatch him? So, since you are dating a guy who would trek to hell and back just to give you whatever expensive thing you want and hers cannot afford to buy her expensive things you want her to go and die? No, she will not kill herself. She will snatch him from you and you will cry a river.
Who even told you the friends you are yapping on and on to about your man care to know about your latest man update? There are two kinds of girls who will join you in this kind of senseless conversation. The first is the one who wants to know if you are better than her. She's the one who will tell you about her own MEN when you tell her about yours. She turns it into a silent competition. When you say, "The man did this..." she says, "Mine did something similar. " The one who says" I used to have this bag he bought you but i gave it out." She is not your friend. She's like a spy. Coming to know what latest you have and you never disappointment her. You most likely bitch about each other behind each other's back.
The second one is the one who listens dreamy eyed. She says things like, "You are so lucky, It's so fine, una when get una own good o." She is the one who would do alot of stupid things to "upgrade" so she can "feel among". She bitches more about you behind your back and she will eventually make a move on the man or even do something worse.
What this means at the end is that you have to start lying to each other at some point and most importantly what it means is you are neither a friend nor do you have any friends because what you call friendship actually sucks. Why? Because that isn't even worth calling a friendship in the first place. What sort of person talks about boyfriends all day long? What sort of friends have no conversation when there are no men to talk about?
This is not me telling you not to talk to your friends about the things going on in your life but you just have to tune it down a bit. The truth is nobody really cares to know about what you have if they don't have it or have something better. If it must be about a man, keep it to yourself for two reasons. One, nobody cares to know and two, it doesn't even make any sense.
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