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For some time now, there has been a well meaning friend of mine who has been trying really hard to talk me into doing something that is quite smart but which I have absolutely no interest in doing. The friend feels the need to put up pressure until I am won over. Hmmm...
No matter how well meaning a person's intentions are, there are times we just want to do our thing our way without letting anyone influence us into modifying or changing our plans. Very often however, we allow people pressure us into doing certain things we don't really feel comfortable doing. Sometimes, such decisions turn out beneficial. Other times, the reverse is the case. Either way, there are are certain things you must not allow anybody pressure you into doing. Let's see them.
Choosing a career.
It is a very common occurrence to see people, especially parents and siblings, trying to pressure a person into studying a particular course or majoring in a particular field. They mean well but, hey, nobody knows your dreams and aspirations better than you do! At the end of the day,you would be the one to bear the burden and not them. Your career is your future and it's all sorts of wrong if you don't by yourself decide on what you want to do with your future. Don't allow anybody pressure you into modifying your dreams.
Entering into a relationship;
Entering into a relationship because you are been pressured is playing with fire. If you let pressure win over common sense here, you may live to regret it and it's not worth the gamble. Entering into the wrong relationship can destroy a person so watch it. If somewhere in your head you just know entering into a particular relationship is not what is best for you, no need pushing it and don't let pressure win!
Having sex;
This is too sensitive a decision to even contemplate letting anyone pressure you into making. Too many people have sex these days before they are ready for it. In the end, some people start having regrets and all the emotional baggage that comes with sharing your body before you are ready. If you are not ready for sexual relations for any of the nuemerous reasons people hold on to, don't allow anyone intimidate you into getting involved. If the decision is not yours, forget it.
Giving your opinion;
Your opinion is personal and if you think keeping it to yourself will be a better option in a particular situation, don't let anyone pressure you into making comments. There are times you need to stay quiet to save yourself and or others. Sounds petty right? But you'll be amazed at how much good keeping your opinion to yourself sometimes can do. Sometimes people just want your opinion to use it against you. Normally, people are not pressured into giving their opinion so when someone starts going, "Say something na. Just say what you think. Say anything", hmmm, you "gada" be careful what you say at that point.
Spiritual/Religious stand.
In these days when there are a lot of religious and denominational clashes, you must not let pressure be the reason you take a stand. You shouldn't be worshipping somewhere and faulting everything about them or wishing you were somewhere else. At the end of the day, you will answer for yourself so allow God help you make the decision yourself. If you are not convinced about a particular place of worship then don't allow yourself to be pressured into going against your beliefs and convictions. I doubt if on the last day saying something like, "I did it because of my ..." will save an already bad situation.
In all, people pressure you into doing things because they want to change you. They probably think you should do certain things differently because they think it's what's best for you. (I wonder how people get around to knowing what is best for other people by the way) They may be right but if after all the pressure you still don't feel convinced, then don't let pressure win.
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For some time now, there has been a well meaning friend of mine who has been trying really hard to talk me into doing something that is quite smart but which I have absolutely no interest in doing. The friend feels the need to put up pressure until I am won over. Hmmm...
No matter how well meaning a person's intentions are, there are times we just want to do our thing our way without letting anyone influence us into modifying or changing our plans. Very often however, we allow people pressure us into doing certain things we don't really feel comfortable doing. Sometimes, such decisions turn out beneficial. Other times, the reverse is the case. Either way, there are are certain things you must not allow anybody pressure you into doing. Let's see them.
Choosing a career.
It is a very common occurrence to see people, especially parents and siblings, trying to pressure a person into studying a particular course or majoring in a particular field. They mean well but, hey, nobody knows your dreams and aspirations better than you do! At the end of the day,you would be the one to bear the burden and not them. Your career is your future and it's all sorts of wrong if you don't by yourself decide on what you want to do with your future. Don't allow anybody pressure you into modifying your dreams.
Entering into a relationship;
Entering into a relationship because you are been pressured is playing with fire. If you let pressure win over common sense here, you may live to regret it and it's not worth the gamble. Entering into the wrong relationship can destroy a person so watch it. If somewhere in your head you just know entering into a particular relationship is not what is best for you, no need pushing it and don't let pressure win!
Having sex;
This is too sensitive a decision to even contemplate letting anyone pressure you into making. Too many people have sex these days before they are ready for it. In the end, some people start having regrets and all the emotional baggage that comes with sharing your body before you are ready. If you are not ready for sexual relations for any of the nuemerous reasons people hold on to, don't allow anyone intimidate you into getting involved. If the decision is not yours, forget it.
Giving your opinion;
Your opinion is personal and if you think keeping it to yourself will be a better option in a particular situation, don't let anyone pressure you into making comments. There are times you need to stay quiet to save yourself and or others. Sounds petty right? But you'll be amazed at how much good keeping your opinion to yourself sometimes can do. Sometimes people just want your opinion to use it against you. Normally, people are not pressured into giving their opinion so when someone starts going, "Say something na. Just say what you think. Say anything", hmmm, you "gada" be careful what you say at that point.
Spiritual/Religious stand.
In these days when there are a lot of religious and denominational clashes, you must not let pressure be the reason you take a stand. You shouldn't be worshipping somewhere and faulting everything about them or wishing you were somewhere else. At the end of the day, you will answer for yourself so allow God help you make the decision yourself. If you are not convinced about a particular place of worship then don't allow yourself to be pressured into going against your beliefs and convictions. I doubt if on the last day saying something like, "I did it because of my ..." will save an already bad situation.
In all, people pressure you into doing things because they want to change you. They probably think you should do certain things differently because they think it's what's best for you. (I wonder how people get around to knowing what is best for other people by the way) They may be right but if after all the pressure you still don't feel convinced, then don't let pressure win.
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contributions and suggestions.
Hmmmm, well said
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