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The other day on Instagram, i stumbled upon a couple of my course mates (any of whom I never speak with by the way) and by the time i was done "spying" on their timelines (Yes i spied on them. Judge me. Lol), i was saying to myself, "Maybe they are not as bad as i thought they were afterall." The big question now is, "WHY THE HELL THEN HAVE I NEVER EVEN SPOKEN TO ANY OF THEM IN THE FOUR YEARS WE HAVE SPENT TOGETHER?"
When i paused to think, i realized i barely speak to anyone who isn't a part of my "clique". As bad as it is, it's true. I've been bad like that. I have been a little too quick to look from a distance and conclude that certain people are not worth the stress either because I think they are too far up in their high Horse or because I'm thinking they are not my "type"( As if i have a type) or maybe just because they behave in a manner i question. Whichever way, i think by the time I'm done screening and discrediting almost everybody, i may have graduated and may never have the opportunity to get to know and appriciate the uniqueness of these people i had the opportunity to study with. Yes i have my own tiny circle of buddies but when it gets down to real life, we need more than a closed group of friends. We all need each other!
When i paused to think, i realized i barely speak to anyone who isn't a part of my "clique". As bad as it is, it's true. I've been bad like that. I have been a little too quick to look from a distance and conclude that certain people are not worth the stress either because I think they are too far up in their high Horse or because I'm thinking they are not my "type"( As if i have a type) or maybe just because they behave in a manner i question. Whichever way, i think by the time I'm done screening and discrediting almost everybody, i may have graduated and may never have the opportunity to get to know and appriciate the uniqueness of these people i had the opportunity to study with. Yes i have my own tiny circle of buddies but when it gets down to real life, we need more than a closed group of friends. We all need each other!
- This may sound petty. You may be just like me and thinking well, i can't be friends with everyone. Yes, you are right. You can't be friends with everyone but you can be friendly with everyone. THAT'S THE POINT OF THIS POST. Friendliness with everyone. We know those people we haven't really been friendly with at work, in church, at school, in our neighborhood and even on social platforms (Seriously??). Those are the people we need to be a little more flexible towards.
What else is life about, anyway? We should't live for ourselves alone. The people we have around us are there for a reason if only we let them. The truth is, you don't really know anybody until you know them. So rather than judging wrongly from a distance, getting to know people first will give us a better deal.
I know this is me calling myself out and hating on my anti social attitude (hehehe) but I know I'm not in this alone. We just need to be a little more flexible with people. Give everyone a chance and have reasonable fun. You'll be amazed by how much you can learn from /about people if you get to know them. Remember you don't really know anyone until you know them. No man is an island. They say man is a social animal afterall.
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What else is life about, anyway? We should't live for ourselves alone. The people we have around us are there for a reason if only we let them. The truth is, you don't really know anybody until you know them. So rather than judging wrongly from a distance, getting to know people first will give us a better deal.
I know this is me calling myself out and hating on my anti social attitude (hehehe) but I know I'm not in this alone. We just need to be a little more flexible with people. Give everyone a chance and have reasonable fun. You'll be amazed by how much you can learn from /about people if you get to know them. Remember you don't really know anyone until you know them. No man is an island. They say man is a social animal afterall.
I appologise for the fonts. They've been acting up all day. I also appologise for the challenges you've been having with commenting. The problem will be rectified as soon as possible. Please remember to subscribe to the blog and drop your comments.
i quite agree
ReplyDeleteThank you. A lot of us do this without even knowing.
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ReplyDeleteHow do you become friendly when people have a conceived idea of you.
ReplyDeleteI think being friendly should be more about creating a suitable atmosphere for people to see a different side of your personallity. U know how some people would wear the, "Don't even bother talking to me" look. Like when you are around them you just feel like the air may literally erupt in flames because there's so much tension. And in your mind you'ld b like, we are not even fighting. I just want to start a conversation with you. Lol..
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