Keeping the goals and resolutions

Hello distinguished readers of Talkasphere, it's  nice having you here again in 2016. Welcome on board the 2016 flight. 

The year is still quite early and in the spirit of the season, a lot of people are still enthusiastic about their new year resolutions but will this be the case in a couple of months? 

I am sure that in time past, a lot of us may have started past years with so much positive energy ready to take on the world but watched our enthusiasm wither at some point. Ever wondered why? 

The reoccurring question is, why do people begin the year  with such overwhelming eagerness and lose the positive energy half way into the year? 

Let's talk about the goals we set. 

How about setting realistic goals for a start? 

The reason most people get stuck and then discouraged is because they set outrageous goals for the year. Someone  may want to call it faith but even the Bible says wisdom is profitable to direct. For example, your 2016 goal cannot be to buy yourself a mansion somewhere in Lekki when you have made zero plans on getting a source of income. Big dreams, small plans leads to a big break down. Take one steady step at a time. It will eventually get you where you are headed. 

Point is, your goals and resolutions must meet with equal work. Try discipline, determination and hard-work in relation to those goals and resolutions and see how far it takes you. 

Even the word "Impossible" says "I'm possible". Impossible is a lazy man's anthem. 

Set your goals and go for them. 

Keep the fire burning. 

As 2015 bows out

 With the year 2015 very rapidly coming to an end, a lot of people are yet to wrap their heads around the fact that the year has gone by so fast.


2015 has been both good and awesome depending on where you are looking from. Those who know how to see the good in every situation already know it's been a great year.
Oh, it hasn't been perfect.
Yes, it came with it's fair share of disappointments and heartbreaks and pains but in all,  life lessons have been taught and learnt.

Knowing December for what it is, i know it's a time when  people tend to count more of their losses than their gains. All these wonderful things have happened throughout the year but people would rather focus on the things that could have been but didn't quite play out. Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we let the disappointments of the past make the future look uncertain?  Why let so much negativity set it?

Truth is, there's nobody who has it easy. Little delays and challenges here and there but  in the end, don't let them defeat you. It's part of how life rubs off on you to make you stronger. So as 2015 gives way to 2016, learn to smile in the face of adversity.
Hold on tight, with your head held high and walk into 2016 determined to have the year unfold in your favour.  
Accept the things that have come to stay and change those you would rather not have. Set your goals and work hard enough to see them actualize.
Remember, Only those who run the race till the end are worthy of the prize. See every pain of the past as a stepping stone taking you closer to your dreams.

You can only do your best and leave  the rest to God. Utilize the rest of 2015 because when it's gone, you can never have it back.

Greater  2016 ahead. Cheers! 

Being a little more flexible

Hello, my dearest readers! How happy i am to have you visiting Talkasphere again!  To the old readers, i am humbled by your diligence  and if you are new, welcome to my small big world. Please stay with me.

The other day on Instagram, i stumbled upon a couple of my course mates (any of whom I never speak with by the way)  and by the time i was done "spying" on their timelines (Yes i spied on them. Judge me. Lol), i was saying to myself, "Maybe they are not as bad as i thought they were afterall." The big question  now is, "WHY THE HELL THEN HAVE I NEVER EVEN SPOKEN TO ANY OF THEM IN THE FOUR YEARS WE HAVE SPENT TOGETHER?"


 When i paused to think, i realized i barely speak to anyone who isn't a part of my "clique". As bad as it is, it's true. I've been bad like that. I have been a little too quick to look from a distance and conclude that certain people are not worth the stress either because I think they are too far up in their high Horse or because I'm thinking they are not my "type"( As if i have a type)  or maybe just because  they behave in a manner i question. Whichever way, i think by the time I'm done screening and discrediting almost everybody, i may have graduated and may never have the opportunity to get to know and appriciate the uniqueness of these people i had the opportunity to study with. Yes i have my own tiny circle of buddies but when it gets  down to real life, we need more than a closed group of friends. We all need each other!

• This may sound petty. You may be just like me and thinking well, i can't be friends with everyone. Yes, you are right. You can't be friends with everyone but you can be friendly with everyone. THAT'S THE POINT OF THIS POST. Friendliness with everyone. We know those people we haven't really been friendly with at work, in church, at school, in our neighborhood and even on social platforms (Seriously??).  Those are the people we need to be a little more flexible towards.
  
  What else is life about, anyway? We should't live for ourselves alone. The people we have around us are there for a reason if only we let them. The truth is, you don't really know anybody until you know them. So rather than judging wrongly  from a distance, getting to know people  first will give us a better deal.
  
  
  
  I know this is me calling myself out and hating on my anti social attitude  (hehehe)  but I know I'm not in this alone. We just need to be a little more flexible with people. Give everyone a chance and have reasonable fun. You'll be amazed by how much you can learn from /about people if you get to know them. Remember you don't really know anyone until you know them. No man is an island. They say man is a social animal afterall.
  
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